Stop Playing the Poet! What Ukrainian Women Really Expect From You

Sunday morning, 8:15 AM. My phone buzzes. It's Jean-Paul, one of my Personalized Package clients, sending me a message. He spent an hour crafting a response to Kateryna, a Ukrainian woman who asked him a very simple question. And I thought to myself: "Here we go again..."

Kateryna had asked him: "What type of relationship are you looking for? Living together, a civil marriage, or something else?"

Simple question, right? Well, Jean-Paul sent me his response... and I had to sit down to read it. Brace yourself.

When ChatGPT Turns a Man Into a 12th Century Troubadour

Jean-Paul had used ChatGPT to help him. And here's what came out (I'm summarizing): metaphors about "a path built together," references to "a light placed upon a chosen bond," flights of fancy about "an evidence to be felt"... In short, a magnificent text. Worthy of a poetry collection.

Except Kateryna didn't ask for a poem. She asked for an answer.

And this is where I need to explain something fundamental to you, gentlemen. Something I repeat every Sunday in my YouTube Lives and in all my articles: Ukrainian women don't function like Western women.

What Ukrainian Women Really Want to Hear

I ask you the question I ask at every Sunday Live: What do Ukrainian women want above all else?

Answer: marriage. Period.

Not an adventure. Not a "let's see where it goes" relationship. Not a "we'll figure it out." Marriage. A stable union. A family. Security.

When a Ukrainian woman asks you a direct question, she expects a direct answer. It's cultural. It's pragmatic. And most importantly, it's vital for her to know if you're a reliable man or a dreamer who's going to waste her time.

Imagine: you're a woman who may have fled a country at war. You've rebuilt your life. You're looking for a stable, solid man who knows what he wants. And then a Frenchman sends you three paragraphs about "a light placed upon a chosen bond"...

Do you see the problem?

The Response That Reassures (And Works)

Here's what I advised Jean-Paul to write:

"I'm looking for a serious relationship with a Ukrainian woman, with the goal of marriage and a stable, lasting life together."

That's it. Twenty words. No metaphors. No poetry. No "path to build together."

I know what you're thinking: "But Antoine, that's cold! That's dry! It lacks romance!"

And I answer you: for a Ukrainian woman, that's exactly what's needed. It's reassuring. It's clear. It's a man who knows what he wants and says it simply.

Why Communication With a Ukrainian Woman Is So Different

Ukrainian women are not familiar with the tensions that exist between men and women in the West. They didn't grow up in a culture where commitment is seen as a trap, where marriage is scary, where men flee responsibilities like the plague.

Their vision of a couple is something non-negotiable. It's like raising children: you don't compromise on that.

A Ukrainian woman isn't looking for a poet. She's not looking for an artist. She's not looking for a dreamer. She's looking for a man who will take charge, who will make decisions, and who will protect his family.

I've already written about this in my article "Ukrainian Women Are Not Romantic" — and believe me, the title shocks, but it's reality. French-style romance, grand declarations, flowery texts... all of this can even create anxiety in a Ukrainian woman. She thinks: "This man talks a lot, but does he act?"

A Man Is Measured by What He Does, Not What He Says

This is another fundamental principle I explain in my articles. For a Ukrainian woman, your beautiful words mean nothing if they're not followed by concrete actions.

You want to reassure her? Don't write her a poem. Organize the trip. Book the ticket. Propose a date. Show that you're a man of action.

Jean-Paul asked me: "But Antoine, how do I avoid seeming too cold?"

My answer: you're not cold, you're clear. And clarity, for a Ukrainian woman, is the most beautiful proof of respect you can give her.

I discuss this in detail here: A Man Is Measured by What He Does, Not What He Says.

The ChatGPT Trap (And Western Advice)

I'm not criticizing ChatGPT — it's a wonderful tool. But it was trained on Western texts, with Western seduction codes. When you ask it to write a romantic letter, it produces exactly what a French or American woman would want to read.

The problem? Kateryna is neither French nor American. She's Ukrainian. And her psychology, her expectations, her way of seeing relationships... it's completely different.

That's why my role exists. That's why CQMI Agency supports hundreds of men like Jean-Paul. Not to judge them. Not to tell them they're doing everything wrong. But to help them adapt their communication to a cultural reality they don't know.

What You Need to Remember From This Article

First: if you're looking for a woman for an adventure or a "no strings attached" relationship, move along. Ukrainian women are looking for marriage. If that's not your goal, you're going to waste your time — and theirs.

Second: when a Ukrainian woman asks you a direct question, answer directly. No metaphors. No poetry. No detours. Say what you want, clearly, in one or two sentences.

Third: if you don't know how to communicate with a Ukrainian woman, get support. That's exactly why we created the Personalized Package at CQMI Agency.

Our Secret Formula for Success

At CQMI Agency, we've developed an approach that works. Our subscription at €250 per month allows you to get 10 contacts with serious Ukrainian women, genuinely interested in building a relationship.

These women aren't looking for a one-night stand. They're looking for a husband. A life. A family. If you're serious, this is exactly what you need.

In Conclusion

Jean-Paul contacted me again a few days later. He had reformulated his message to Kateryna with my advice. Her response? "Thank you for your honesty. I appreciate men who know what they want."

See? No need for poetry. Just clarity.

And join me every Sunday for the CQMI YouTube Live — we talk about all of this, with real cases and practical advice.

Antoine Monnier
Founder of CQMI Agency