Boryslava's Feedback: The $70 Weapon That 99% of Men Refuse to Use

Dear Friend,

Today, I want to talk to you about something that is very close to my heart — and that could, quite literally, save you thousands of dollars. Maybe even save you from a divorce. Every single day at the CQMI Agency, I am stunned to see intelligent men — often highly successful in their careers — make extremely costly mistakes that could have been avoided with one simple tool. A tool that costs $70 CAD. Seventy dollars. The price of a decent dinner for two in Montreal or a couple of movie tickets in Toronto.

That tool is my wife Boryslava's feedback.

In nearly 15 years of coaching Western men — Canadians, Americans, Europeans — who are looking to build a serious relationship with a Ukrainian or Russian woman, I have never seen a single client spontaneously understand the phenomenal power of this service. Not one. And yet, as I'm about to show you in this article, this feedback is — without any exaggeration — the most powerful weapon in our matchmaking agency's arsenal.

  What Exactly Is a $70 Feedback?

Let me paint a picture you'll probably recognize. You've been communicating with a CQMI member for a few weeks, maybe a couple of months. The exchanges are going… let's say "reasonably well." She replies to your messages, you write to her, maybe you've had a video call or two. And then, one day, a little voice in your head starts whispering questions:

"Is she as interested as I am in developing our relationship?"

"Are we truly on the same page, or am I fooling myself?"

"I feel like she's not putting in as much effort as I am in our exchanges… is that normal?"

"Does she really intend to come to our first meeting in Poland?"

"Does she want to get married soon, or is she dragging her feet for other reasons?"

In short, you have a gut feeling. Something doesn't quite add up, or you simply need reassurance. Here's the critical point, gentlemen: this woman has cultural codes and values that are fundamentally different from yours. And unfortunately, you are not an expert in Slavic culture. As I wrote in a previous article about the 6 mistakes to avoid when dating a Russian woman, most Western men dive in without preparation and are completely unaware of the unique psychology of Slavic women. The cultural gap is immense — and what you interpret as disinterest may simply be… Slavic reserve. Or vice versa.

Never lose sight of this fundamental principle: you cannot decode on your own what this woman is truly thinking and feeling. Not with your Western frame of reference. It's simply impossible.

  What We Actually Do for $70

When you decide to order a feedback, here's what happens behind the scenes. And believe me, for $70, it's a considerable amount of work.

First, my wife Boryslava coordinates with Galina or Viktoria — our assistants on the ground — to schedule a phone appointment with the lady in question. This step alone can take one or two days depending on the woman's availability. We don't rush her, we don't summon her like she's appearing before a tribunal: we respect her schedule, her life, her constraints.

Then, Boryslava has a conversation with the member. And when I say a conversation, I don't mean five minutes on the clock. This discussion lasts at least one hour. Often longer. Women enjoy talking about these things — the relationship, the feelings, the doubts, the hopes — and the digressions can be quite extensive. Boryslava, being herself a Ukrainian woman married to a Frenchman, knows exactly how to ask the right questions and how to create the atmosphere of trust needed for the member to open up honestly.

Finally, my wife writes up a detailed report of the situation to answer your specific questions. This document is pure gold. It's a feminine, Slavic, experienced perspective on a situation that you simply cannot assess on your own.

  $70 That Can Save You $15,000

To give you an idea of the scale of the problem, I would estimate that within our agency, half of our clients could have saved significant sums of money by simply requesting a feedback from Boryslava. This is not a figure of speech — it's a cold, sobering observation I've made after years of practice.

I even know several men — and I weigh my words carefully — who could have avoided a marriage followed by a divorce with a simple $70 feedback.

Why didn't they ask for it? Simply out of pride. Because a man, especially one who's successful in business, who manages teams, who's accustomed to making strategic decisions, thinks he understands the situation better than anyone else. The truth is: professional success is absolutely no guarantee of romantic success, especially in a cross-cultural context.

The feedback saves money, time, and emotional energy. But 99% of men think it's a pointless expense. Usually out of ignorance, and always because of an overconfidence that, in the realm of relationships with Slavic women, is your worst enemy.

  The Secret Weapon Behind Our Group Trips

The feedback is quite simply the most powerful weapon in our agency's arsenal. And I can prove it with facts.

Back when we organized group trips to Ukraine with $3,000 contracts, my wife Boryslava spent her time conducting feedbacks. She was literally exhausted by this work: calling each member individually, decoding the signals, writing reports, advising men on the right course of action. It was a titanic, thankless, often invisible effort.

And yet, the results were exceptional.

These feedbacks contributed to numerous marriages that are still going strong years later. You can see the proof on our CQMI weddings page, with couples formed since 2015 who are still together and happy across Canada, France, and Belgium. Many of these marriages would never have happened without Boryslava's behind-the-scenes work. She was the one who adjusted the course, who caught cultural misunderstandings, who prevented disasters before they could unfold.

  Two Stories That Should Make You Think

I think about this farmer. A good man, hardworking, sincere in his intentions. He lost over $15,000 to a dishonest woman. And do you know what's most painful about this story? He deliberately refused Boryslava's feedback. We even tried to force it on him, to make him understand that something was wrong, that the warning signs were glaring. Nothing doing. His pride, his stubbornness, his certainty that he "had things under control" cost him the equivalent of several months' salary.

Why spend $70 when you can lose $15,000? The logic is impeccable… in its absurdity.

Another client — whom I obviously won't name — rushed headlong into marriage while systematically refusing the feedback we offered. That feedback would have allowed him to understand everything that was really going on — everything he was ignoring, deliberately, because the truth would have been too uncomfortable to hear. He chose illusion over reality. And the price of that illusion? He's still paying for it today.

  The Cortex vs. the Reptilian Brain: An Uneven Fight

You see, the feedback speaks to your cortex — that rational part of your brain that analyzes, evaluates, and anticipates. The problem is that your cortex doesn't stand a chance when it comes to reining in the reptilian brain. And the reptilian brain, in the context of a relationship with a beautiful Ukrainian woman, often speaks the language of desire, projection, and idealization.

Sure, I understand. I'm a man, I've been there myself. But marriage and love are serious business. Any man who has been through a divorce should know this. If that's your case, I invite you to read our article on why Russian and Ukrainian women divorce — you'll discover that the dynamics of a mixed couple are fundamentally different from what you experienced with a Western woman.

Boryslava's feedback is precisely that safety net between your reptilian brain and reality. It's the voice of reason telling you: "Hold on — here's what she really thinks. Here's what you're not seeing. Here's what you need to know before booking your plane ticket."

Is that voice always pleasant to hear? No. Can it save you from disaster? Absolutely.

  In Conclusion: Stop Playing Solo

If I had to sum up this entire article in a single sentence, it would be this: you cannot win this game alone. A relationship with a Ukrainian or Russian woman is not a chess match where you control all the pieces. It's a dialogue between two cultures, two educations, two worldviews — and without a cultural translator, you're flying blind.

Boryslava is that translator. For $70, she does what you could never do on your own: she gets inside the mind and heart of this woman, and brings you back the truth. Not the truth you want to hear — but the truth you need.

And if you want to take your journey further, remember that our subscription plan at $350 CAD for one month gives you 10 contacts with serious women who are genuinely motivated to build a real relationship. That's our secret sauce, and it's what separates the men who succeed from those who exhaust themselves in fruitless pursuits. Everything is detailed here: our dating process and pricing.

So, gentlemen, the next time you hesitate to invest $70 in a feedback, ask yourself this one question: how much am I willing to lose just to prove myself right?

The answer? I already know it. And so do you.

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Antoine Monnier
Founder, CQMI Agency