Forget Ukrainian Women's Criteria: Here's Why the Matchmaker Changes Everything

Dear Friend,

Admit it. You've done it. We've all done it.

You're browsing through our Ukrainian women's profiles on the CQMI website. A photo stops you dead in your tracks. You feel your heart racing. She's stunning. You eagerly click to learn more and then... you scroll straight down to the section "The man she's looking for".

If you recognize yourself in this embarrassing situation, stay with me. Because what I'm about to reveal today could radically change your approach to meeting Slavic women.

Why Do You Get Stuck on Her Criteria?

The reason is simple and can be summed up in one sentence: you think she thinks like you.

You see, when a man sets his search criteria, they're usually non-negotiable. Smoking? Deal-breaker. Young children? Complicated. Tattoos all over her body? Not for you. And mechanically, you assume that the Ukrainian woman who wrote "35-45 years old" in her profile is just as categorical as you are about your own criteria.

This is a monumental mistake.

I keep telling you, week after week in my Sunday Live sessions, how male and female psychology are polar opposites. We'll see later that these famous criteria only serve one purpose: to slow you down on your path to success. Both for you and for them.

Why Does a Ukrainian Woman Put Criteria in Her Profile?

Hold on tight, because the truth might surprise you. A Ukrainian woman's criteria in her profile essentially serve two purposes:

That's pretty much all there is to say about women's criteria to justify them. Nothing more, nothing less.

How Does a Woman Really Evaluate a Man?

Here's the truth that few men understand: a woman never uses her criteria to evaluate whether she wants to communicate with you or not.

A woman forms a global impression from your photos and your profile text. She creates an emotion – positive or negative – when reading your profile. It's visceral, instinctive, emotional.

Then, she'll look at your profession to quickly assess your social status, then your age. That's pretty much all she needs. Those famous criteria she listed? They go out the window if the emotion is there.

Understand this: the 3 key components a Ukrainian woman looks for in a man have nothing to do with a list of rigid criteria.

True Stories That Defy All Criteria

Allow me to share some anecdotes that perfectly illustrate my point.

These kinds of stories are everywhere. You probably know as many as I do. And in every single one of them, there's one thing in common...

The Crucial Role of the Matchmaker

In all these fairy tale stories, you have what we call in love matchmakers: marriage agencies, well-meaning people like that Crédit Lyonnais driver, friends who insist...

Think about it for a second: if the women at the Kyiv marriage agency hadn't literally forced me to meet my wife Boryslava one evening when I had nothing planned... I might still be single writing these lines.

That's the role we play at CQMI. That's the role our assistants in Kyiv play. That's the role Boryslava plays when she calls a hesitant member.

The Real Criteria That Matter

Let's be honest and direct. What criteria really matter?

For men:

It's physical attraction. Period. The reptilian brain thinking about reproduction. Any man who objects is a liar. The only argument that might sway him is the financial argument related to existing children. A man is completely predictable in his desires.

For women:

It's a much more complex combination of things. It's the overall image you project in your profile – your energy, your confidence, your authenticity. And of course, financial security plays a crucial role for Ukrainian women, as I explain in this article about the 3 key components.

What I Think About YOUR Criteria

Whether you're a man or a woman, I'll tell you straight:

I remember a newsletter I sent to women years ago. I asked them, for the new year, to try an experiment. Just one. Just to please my wife and me.

The experiment? Delete just one criterion from their list. Just one! And try this new approach with the next contact requests.

Do you know how many marriages we celebrated following that simple newsletter?

Three marriages.

Three happy couples today, simply because those women agreed to let go of ONE criterion. Do you see the power of open-mindedness? Do you see the role of the intermediary who suggests, pushes, encourages?

Our Secret Formula at CQMI

At CQMI Agency, we've developed over the years what you might call our "secret sauce" for succeeding with a Ukrainian woman.

Our role as matchmakers is exactly what we've been talking about throughout this article. We create the conditions for meetings. We insist when necessary. We encourage women to look beyond their artificial criteria. We coach you to present the best version of yourself.

As this article on how a marriage agency works explains, our work goes far beyond simple introductions.

What Happens Next Is Up to You

So, what are you going to do now?

Will you continue to disqualify yourself by reading Ukrainian women's criteria as if they were commandments carved in stone?

Or will you understand that these criteria are mainly psychological barriers – yours and theirs – that can fall with the right support?

Love doesn't follow a list of technical specifications. Love is an emotion. An alchemy. A surprise, often.

And sometimes, all it takes is a stubborn matchmaker making three phone calls for two people who "didn't match the criteria" to end up building a happy family together.