This is one of the most common questions I receive from men in their 50s, 60s, and beyond—especially from American and Canadian men who are serious, established, and genuinely interested in building a long-term relationship with an Eastern European woman.
Recently, one of our clients, Serge, a French-speaking man in his early 60s, asked this exact question after meeting several Ukrainian women through our international matchmaking agency.
His experience is very typical.
The first meetings go well.
Holding hands feels natural.
Walking arm in arm is accepted.
After a few dates, small kisses on the lips are allowed.
But then… nothing more.
No passionate kissing.
No intimacy.
No sexual relationship—even after multiple meetings.
And yet, these women talk about:
So the question is legitimate:
When can a man realistically expect a first sexual relationship with an Eastern European woman?
And what actually triggers—or blocks—that level of intimacy?
I addressed this topic in depth in LIVE235, a one-hour video that received tremendous feedback.
I strongly recommend watching the final chapter, where I explain this exact situation in detail:
→ https://www.cqmi.fr/fr/videos-femmes-russie-et-ukraine/item/1299-live235-a-quel-moment-on-est-dans-une-relation-de-couple-serieuse-avec-une-femme-ukrainienne
Below are the four real answers, based on years of on-the-ground experience—not theories.
Let’s be very clear.
Ukrainian women are not looking for:
They are looking for marriage, stability, and a life partner.
If you are not serious, please do not apply.
You will waste your time, their time, and your money.
This topic makes many men uncomfortable.
And almost every man tells me, “That doesn’t apply to me.”
Yet in real life…
From our direct field experience, around 50% of failed first encounters with Ukrainian women are linked to hygiene and personal grooming issues.
I explain this very openly in this article:
→https://www.cqmi.ca/en/russian-dating-news-cqmi/item/1293-do-you-need-to-look-like-brad-pitt-to-marry-a-beautiful-ukrainian-woman
For Ukrainian women, hygiene is non-negotiable:
A real anecdote:
One Ukrainian woman once told my wife on the phone:
“He is kind and intelligent… but I cannot imagine being intimate with him.”
When we investigated further, the reason was simple—and the man had absolutely no idea.
This is the number one reason intimacy does not happen.
Many men believe they are already a couple.
But from the woman’s perspective, nothing has been clearly defined yet.
Until you have had a serious one-on-one conversation about:
A Ukrainian woman will protect herself emotionally and physically.
I explain exactly when a Ukrainian woman considers herself truly in a relationship in this key article:
→https://www.cqmi.ca/en/russian-dating-news-cqmi/item/1296-when-are-you-truly-in-a-serious-relationship-with-a-ukrainian-woman
Without that clarity, intimacy simply will not happen—
even if she agrees to:
This is not manipulation.
It is a major cultural difference.
Some Ukrainian women use a very intelligent filtering technique.
They openly state in their profile that they are looking for:
As a result:
My advice to men like Serge:
You can use the exact same strategy.
Be honest in your profile and state that:
Yes, you will receive fewer replies.
But the women who respond will know exactly what they are agreeing to.
This saves time, money, and emotional confusion.
This is probably the most underestimated solution—and yet the most effective.
For 50 €, our agency offers a personalized feedback service.
Here is how it works:
Women speak far more openly with other women.
They share things they would never say directly to a man.
You then receive:
Very often, this either:
Many men mistakenly believe that:
automatically mean emotional or sexual commitment.
They do not.
A Ukrainian woman’s sincerity is measured by:
This is where professional guidance makes all the difference.
Our core solution remains our 1-month subscription at 250 €, which provides:
In sensitive situations like Serge’s, the 50 € feedback service is often the key to understanding where you truly stand.
With a Ukrainian woman:
If you are serious, patient, and well-guided, you will experience a level of relationship quality that many men have never known before.
Contact me directly:
antoine@cqmi.ca
Antoine Monnier
International Matchmaking Agency – CQMI
A étudié à CQPNL Centre québécois de PNL
