I get asked this question at least ten times a week. And my wife Boryslava probably answers it even more often than I do. So today, I'm going to take the time to explain everything, black on white, once and for all: what exactly happens when you click "Send an invitation" to a woman on our platform?

I know many of you — whether you're from the US, Canada, the UK, or elsewhere — are still hesitating. You browse the profiles, you go back and forth, you wonder if that beautiful Ukrainian woman from Kyiv or that Russian lady from Saint Petersburg will even see your request. Let me reassure you: at CQMI, nothing falls through the cracks. And that's precisely what makes the difference with all those websites where your message disappears into a digital black hole.

A Matchmaking Agency, Not a Ghost Profile Factory

Let's start from the beginning. CQMI falls into the category of matchmaking agencies, and I insist on that word. Every single registration — men and women alike — is manually validated by a real human being. Nobody, and I mean nobody, can appear on our website without a thorough verification on our part.

On both sides, identities are checked. And I'll admit we regularly catch guys trying to shave five or ten years off their profile. Gentlemen, we do check. And believe me, when Boryslava discovers that a 58-year-old man claims to be 49, she doesn't find it funny at all.

On the women's side, the registration process is even more rigorous. Every female member must provide proof of her marital status — passport, official documents — and record a registration video. As I explained in this article about choosing the right dating agency, over 40% of women who send in an application are already married. They are systematically rejected. Imagine what it's like on a site like Anastasia or UkraineDate where nobody verifies anything…

This verification work is invisible to you, but it's fundamental. When you choose a woman on our website, you know she is real, single, and looking for a serious relationship. Not an adventure, not a one-night stand, not a game. A marriage.

The Best of Both Worlds: Matchmaking Agency + Dating Site

CQMI also leverages the advantages of a dating site with a modern web platform that makes contact requests and the exchange of direct contact information easier. Upon registration, both men and women receive a login and password to connect to the site www.cqmi.ca and make their contact requests independently.

It's truly the best of both worlds: the security of a traditional matchmaking agency — with verifications, human support, and seriousness — combined with the convenience of a dating site — with access to profiles from your couch, the ability to browse our female members at your own pace, and a simple, intuitive contact request system.

I remember a client from the UK, let's call him Terry, who told me on the phone: "Antoine, I've tried dating sites before, it's always the same scam. But old-fashioned matchmaking agencies feel too heavy." When he understood our hybrid approach, he took the plunge. Six months later, he was engaged to a Ukrainian woman from Dnipro.

You Send an Invitation: Here's What Really Happens

Now, let's get to the heart of the matter. You've spotted a profile you like. You send an invitation to get acquainted. And then what? This is where our team's work begins, and it's exactly what my wife Boryslava explains ten times a week to our clients. So let me quote her directly, because she says it better than I do:

Do you see the difference? On a regular dating site, you send a message and pray that it gets read. At CQMI, there's a real human team that makes sure your request reaches its destination and that you get an answer — positive or negative — within a reasonable timeframe. No radio silence for weeks. No ghost profiles that never log in.

Let me give you a concrete example. Recently, one of our clients — let's call him Gerard — had sent an invitation to Elena. Boryslava sent Elena a message asking her to respond to the invitation. Elena read the message but didn't react. That's a clear sign: she's probably not interested. After one final reminder, if the silence continues, we mark the refusal and Gerard can move on without wasting weeks in uncertainty.

It's honest, it's transparent, and most importantly, it saves you precious time. As I mentioned in my article about the fear of rejection, there are always slightly more than 50% of women who accept. Rejection is part of the game — what matters is that you're never left in the dark.

The Fast-Track Option: Direct Phone Intervention

Some men want to move faster. They've spotted a profile that really speaks to them and they don't want to wait for the standard process. That's perfectly human, and I completely understand.

For these cases, we offer an option at $75 CAD: a direct intervention from our team with the woman, by phone, to emphasize the man's motivation and present his profile in a personalized way. This is not harassment — we don't force anyone — but it's a human nudge that can make all the difference.

Think of it like a mutual friend introducing you to someone at a party. He's not going to force her to dance with you, but he'll at least make sure she knows who you are and why you're worth getting to know. This small investment has sometimes been a game-changer for clients who would have otherwise received a default refusal — simply because the woman hadn't taken the time to look at the profile.

These Women Are Looking for a Husband, Not a Fling

Let me be straight with you, as always. The women registered with our agency are not looking for a one-night stand. They're not looking for a man to "have fun with" or to pass the time. They're looking for a husband — a man to build a life with, start a family, create something solid and lasting.

If you're not serious, if you think Ukraine is some kind of catalog of pretty girls available for your whims, please abstain. Really. PPL scam sites are made for men who want to dream without committing. At CQMI, we deal in reality.

These women have courage. They register with an international matchmaking agency, they go through verifications, they record a video, they accept opening themselves up to a man from a different culture, a different country, who speaks a different language. All of this because they still believe in marriage, in family, in the possibility of being happy with a man who will respect them. The least you can do is show them the same level of seriousness in return.

In Summary: The Best of Matchmaking Meets Modern Dating

Our agency combines the strengths of a traditional matchmaking agency — identity verification, human support, the fight against ghost profiles — with the modernity of an online dating platform — ease of use, online profile access, and instant contact requests.

We make sure that every contact request is processed, followed up on, and results in a clear answer. No grey area, no endless waiting, no doubts about whether the profiles are real. And if you'd like to learn more about the subtle difference between a Russian woman and a Ukrainian woman, we cover that on our blog as well.

Got questions about how we work? Don't hesitate to write to me directly at antoine@cqmi.ca. I personally reply to every message.

Antoine Monnier, founder of CQMI Matchmaking Agency