A Critical Question Too Many Men Get Wrong**
This is one of the most important questions a man can ask himself — and yet it is one of the most misunderstood.
When can you honestly say that you are in a serious relationship with a Ukrainian woman?
This is not a romantic or philosophical question.
It is a very practical one, with emotional, financial, and life-changing consequences.
Because let me be very clear from the beginning:
you should only provide real financial support when you are officially in a serious relationship.
Anything before that is a dangerous grey zone — and this grey zone ruins many Western men.
I absolutely refuse to write one of those articles listing
“10 or 11 signs that prove she wants a serious relationship with you.”
Why?
Because women can be excellent actresses when they need to be.
And some of them know perfectly how to give you exactly what you want to see, hear, and believe.
If you rely on signs, emotions, sweet words, or romantic moments,
you are exposing yourself to serious misjudgment.
So instead, we will use a far more reliable method:
elimination.
This happens all the time.
A man calls me and confidently says:
“Antoine, I’m in love. Please deactivate her profile. She’s my woman.”
Wrong.
Being in love is a one-sided emotional state until it is clearly defined and mutually agreed upon.
Love alone does not create a serious relationship.
You exchange messages, calls, maybe even letters.
But you have never met in real life.
Here is the reality:
a serious relationship cannot exist without physical presence.
Until you have sat across from each other, looked into each other’s eyes,
you are not a couple.
You spent a week together in an exotic location.
You paid for everything.
She was happy, affectionate, grateful.
That is normal.
But vacations are artificial environments.
They do not reflect real life.
This does not define a serious relationship.
Let me be crystal clear:
Sex has absolutely nothing to do with a serious relationship.
Nothing.
Believing otherwise is pure self-deception.
Romantic restaurant.
A glass of champagne.
Tears in her eyes.
It may be sincere — or not.
But an emotional declaration in a romantic setting, especially with alcohol involved, does not define commitment.
My Personal Story with My Wife, Boryslava**
Now let me explain how it works in real life, using my own experience.
My wife Boryslava and I met for the first time in 2014.
That first meeting lasted three days.
Then came six to seven months of long-distance communication,
with one letter per day.
Not superficial messages — real letters.
Our second meeting took place in Kyiv, Ukraine.
That meeting changed everything.
We were working together on the early development of the CQMI matchmaking agency in Ukraine.
Work plays a very important role in my life, and she understood that.
One morning — and I emphasize the morning, without alcohol —
we sat facing each other.
And she asked me a direct, serious question:
“What kind of relationship do we have?”
My wife has exceptional maturity and emotional intelligence well above average.
At that exact moment, calmly and clearly,
we mutually decided that we were in a serious relationship.
She was surprised.
She believed I had returned to Kyiv to meet other Ukrainian women.
That was absolutely not the case.
I had returned for her — and to develop the agency.
If you want to know when a relationship becomes serious, these rules are non-negotiable:
My wife and I exchanged letters for seven months.
Values, life vision, character — not small talk.
You must be able to look each other in the eyes.
Sit across from each other.
Preferably in the morning.
No alcohol.
No emotional manipulation.
Define clearly:
Sex does NOT mean you are in a serious relationship.
Believing that would be irrational.
Some men choose to live together 3 to 6 months before proposing marriage.
That is a very healthy and intelligent approach.
The next step after defining the relationship is marriage — but that is another topic and another article.
The women in our agency are not looking for one-night stands.
They are looking for marriage and lifelong commitment.
If you are not serious, please do not apply.
Our agency offers a proven system:
And in this specific situation,
if you want to know whether a woman is truly committed to you,
we offer a professional feedback service for €50.
Questions?
Contact me directly: antoine@cqmi.ca
Antoine Monnier
CQMI Matchmaking Agency
A étudié à CQPNL Centre québécois de PNL
