Why Chasing Two Goals at Once Often Ruins Your Marriage Project

Introduction: A Common Trap for Western Men

Every year, I speak with hundreds of single or divorced men from the United States and Canada who want to marry a Ukrainian woman.

These men are serious.
They are done with games.
They want stability, loyalty, and a real life partner.

And very often, the conversation starts like this:

“Antoine, I want to meet a Ukrainian woman for marriage.
But I’d also like her to share my main passion.”

That’s usually where the problem begins.

The Typical Situation: One Man, One Life Goal… and One Dominant Hobby

Let’s look at real-life examples.

• A man passionate about mountain hiking, looking for a Ukrainian woman who will hike with him.
• A musician who wants a wife with whom he can perform concerts.
• A cyclist, skier, sailor, chess player, or endurance athlete looking for a female version of himself.

The goal becomes double:

1. Find a woman for a stable, lifelong marriage
2. Find a woman who shares the same main hobby

On paper, it sounds romantic.
In reality, it makes success much harder.

Two Goals = Exponentially Higher Difficulty (This Is Math, Not Philosophy)

Let’s be very clear.

Finding:

• a serious woman,
• marriage-oriented,
• with traditional values,
• willing to build a family,
• open to relocating,

? is already a significant challenge.

Now add:

• the same hobby,
• the same level of passion,
• the same lifestyle rhythm,

? and you drastically reduce your odds of success.

This isn’t pessimism.
It’s basic probability.

Each additional constraint reduces the pool.
Eventually, the pool becomes empty.

A Real Anecdote: “I Want a Ukrainian Woman Who Hikes Like Me”

One man once told me very seriously:

“Antoine, I want a traditional Ukrainian woman for marriage…
but she absolutely must love mountain hiking like I do.”

I asked him:

“And what if she loves you deeply, supports you,
but prefers reading while you hike?”

Silence.

Many men confuse a wife with a leisure partner.

Antoine’s Personal Experience (Founder of CQMI)

Let me be very honest.

? It took me nearly 10 years to find my wife, Boryslava.

Ten years to find:

• shared values,
• emotional stability,
• trust,
• a woman with whom daily life is pleasant—not exhausting.

And I can tell you this with certainty:

If I had required her to share all my passions—
for example cross-country skiing—I would probably still be single today.

Finding a woman with whom life flows naturally is already rare.
Looking for a mirror image of yourself is an illusion.

CQMI’s “Secret Sauce” That Actually Works

At CQMI, we don’t sell fantasies.
We work with reality.

Our most effective formula is simple:

? A 1-month membership at €250,
which gives access to up to 10 contacts with Ukrainian women who are genuinely interested in building a serious relationship.

These women:

• are not looking for one-night stands,
• are not here for entertainment,
• want marriage and lifelong commitment.

⚠️ If you are not serious, please do not apply.

Learn more about our approach:
? https://www.cqmi.ca/en/why-choose-cqmi/

Marriage Is Not About Finding a Clone

A serious Ukrainian woman:

• will respect your passions,
• encourage you,
• support your projects,

But she is not meant to be your double.

In a traditional, balanced couple:

• men and women often have different interests,
• different rhythms,
• different roles.

? And that’s exactly what creates harmony.

Related reading:
? https://www.cqmi.ca/en/traditional-relationships-men-women/

If Your Absolute Priority Is a Shared Hobby…

Let’s be honest.

If your main objective is:

“I must find a woman who shares my exact passion”

Then a matchmaking agency may not be the right tool.

Better alternatives may include:

• Hiking clubs
  ? https://americanhiking.org/
• Tennis clubs
  ? https://www.usta.com/
• Chess clubs
  ? https://www.uschess.org/
• Cycling groups
  ? https://www.imbacanada.com/

⚠️ But be warned:
These environments are not marriage-focused, and the challenge remains high.

Final Thoughts: Don’t Chase Two Rabbits

I’ll conclude with something I often tell our clients:

If you chase two rabbits, you’ll catch neither.

In love:

• be realistic,
• focus on what truly matters,
• don’t turn marriage into an unrealistic fantasy.

At CQMI, our mission is clear:
? help you meet a serious Ukrainian woman,
? build a traditional, stable couple,
? and create a life together that is calm, respectful, and lasting.

That’s real success.