In a previous article, I discussed the concept of shared custody, which doesn't exist in Eastern Europe, and the fact that Slavic women take their role as mothers very seriously. You might read that article and say: "OK Antoine, thanks, but that's all theoretical."

Do you want a concrete example to better understand? Then sit back and read this story full of valuable lessons. It perfectly illustrates why it is absolutely essential to understand your future Ukrainian or Russian wife's culture before making a commitment.

A Fairy Tale Beginning

This story takes place in Montreal, and the main character is a young Ukrainian woman my wife Boryslava met during French language classes. Let's call her Olga. She's in her late twenties, stunningly beautiful, and childless at the beginning of our story.

Olga is married to a young Canadian man we'll call Mario. He works in the restaurant industry in Montreal, is in his early thirties, slightly older than his wife. He rents a modest apartment and his salary isn't impressive, but he is quite handsome.

Mario had what he thought was a brilliant idea: he had heard about the legendary beauty of Ukrainian women and their family devotion. Women attached to traditions who respect their husbands. Without hesitation, he signed up on a dating site, traveled to Ukraine, and met Olga. It was love at first sight. All of this happened before 2022, before the war began.

Arrival in Canada and Early Happiness

A few months after his visit to Ukraine, Olga arrived in Montreal and they got married. She obtained her immigration papers, enrolled in French language classes, and that's where she met my wife Boryslava. A friendship naturally formed between these two Ukrainian women. Olga confided in her about her relationship with Mario.

So far, everything was going well. The couple was living their perfect love story.

Things were going so well that Olga became pregnant. This is perfectly normal in Ukrainian culture: women have children young, in their twenties. It's the natural order of things for a Slavic woman.

Storm Clouds on the Horizon

But let's return to Mario's character. Unlike the faithful listeners of my Sunday Live sessions, he knows absolutely nothing about his wife's culture. And to be honest, he's not really interested. He chose Olga not for her culture, but for her beauty that turns heads on the street.

Olga is beautiful, young, and she respects men. She has everything going for her! But at this point in the story, storm clouds are beginning to appear on the horizon...

A child means financial responsibility. And as we mentioned: Mario isn't exactly wealthy. He's starting to realize that alone, he won't be able to support his family of three. So Mario thinks he has another brilliant idea...

The Fatal Mistake

Mario, who works at a restaurant, suggests to the manager that his young wife could work there. After all, she's beautiful and will attract customers! With two salaries, he'll finally be able to breathe financially.

And this is where Mario makes a colossal mistake: he forces his wife to put their baby in daycare just three months after giving birth.

We need money and it's urgent, thinks Mario. But Olga doesn't understand. Her husband can't provide for his family? This is simply unacceptable in her culture.

The Inevitable Breakup

Olga confided in my wife Boryslava and said these words that sum everything up:

"Why should I burden myself with a man who can't even provide for his own child? What good is such a weak man to me?"

Mario's outbursts, his explanations, his promises... Nothing changed her mind. Olga's decision was final. She filed for divorce.

The result: Mario will have to pay child support for the next 18 years. And he lost his beautiful Ukrainian wife.

Lessons to Learn from This Story

This tragic story teaches us several fundamental truths:

1. Beauty isn't enough. Mario was seduced by Olga's beauty without ever trying to understand who she really was, her culture, her values, her expectations.

2. Cultural ignorance is destructive. Ukrainian and Russian women have deeply rooted family values. Ignoring these values means building your relationship on sand.

3. Financial stability matters. It's not about being rich, but about being able to assume your responsibilities as head of the family. A Slavic woman expects her husband to be a solid pillar.

4. The role of mother is sacred. For a Ukrainian woman, nothing and no one will come between her and raising her children. Especially not a husband who doesn't understand this reality.

Are You Ready?

If you want to meet a Ukrainian woman or a Russian woman, ask yourself these questions honestly:

• Are you ready to invest in understanding her culture?
• Are you financially stable enough to start a family?
• Are you ready to respect her role as a mother as an absolute priority?
• Are you looking for a serious, lasting relationship, or just a fling?

These women are not looking for a one-night stand. They are looking for marriage, a lifelong union. If you're not serious, don't bother.

And most importantly, don't be like Mario! Take the time to educate yourself. Join us every Sunday at 8 PM (Paris time) / 2 PM (Quebec time) for our YouTube Live sessions where we discuss all these essential topics.

Questions? Contact me directly: antoine@cqmi.ca

Antoine Monnier
CQMI Agency