Following my LIVE 239 about age difference and its associated cost, I believe it's particularly useful to move to the practical part of my message and really examine what goes on in the mind of a Ukrainian woman when she registers on a dating site like ours. And especially, when she has to make choices based on the age difference of the men who approach her.

To illustrate this, we'll describe a very concrete case. That of Tatiana, 38 years old, who lives in Ukraine with her 10-year-old daughter in the same city as her widowed mother. They live in Rivne, in central-western Ukraine.

What I'm about to tell you, gentlemen, is not fiction. This is the type of situation we regularly observe at CQMI. And that's precisely why you need to understand how these women think.

Tatiana: A Ukrainian Woman Like So Many Others

Tatiana is a very beautiful Ukrainian woman. Her profile photos don't leave Western men searching for an Eastern European woman indifferent. She had to pay dearly for her Ukrainian photographer to take these shots that will serve as her passport to leave a country at war.

A country where she doesn't want her 10-year-old daughter to become collateral damage from Putin's bombs.

She wants the best for her daughter. And as the years pass, she worries more and more. The idea of leaving her alone in Ukraine doesn't appeal to her at all. She would like to find a man understanding enough to take her mother into the equation. Many Western men overlook this point. It's a mistake.

Tatiana works in a sewing workshop making Ukrainian fashion clothing and wedding dresses. She loves her work, but frankly, it's very hard and poorly paid. She hopes one day to be able to rest with everything that weighs on her shoulders.

She registers with CQMI to find a Western man.

First Contacts: How Tatiana Filters Her Options

From the start, she receives quite a few requests. Normal for a woman with her profile. She initially filters by avoiding age gaps that are too large. She limits male candidates to 50 years old, which already seems like a significant difference to her — 12 years after all.

Eventually, she starts a conversation with Paul, a 47-year-old American man who has two daughters in shared custody.

Paul lives in Chicago. He works for the IRS. He's a civil servant. Intelligent, organized, cultured. On paper, it seems to match.

They end up having a successful first meeting in Poland for a few days, to break the ice and get to know each other. Time passes and the relationship builds quite well...

Until the day Tatiana understands between the lines that Paul has a rather average salary.

All of this worries Tatiana. She begins to distance herself from Paul.

I know what some of you are thinking: "But it's normal to want her to work!" Allow me to stop you right there. You're thinking like a Westerner. A Ukrainian woman who leaves everything — her country, her family, her bearings — doesn't want to start struggling all over again. She's looking for an improvement in her life. Not a transfer of hardship.

Bernard Enters the Scene: An Unexpected Profile

Then, Tatiana receives another request. From a Canadian man this time. His name is Bernard.

At first, she wanted to decline. Bernard is 55 years old. Seventeen years difference. That's a lot. But when she saw his photos, she started reading his description.

This man has a great situation. Business owner. He has a large house in Toronto and a second residence in Italy, by the sea.

Tatiana dreams of going to Italy someday...

Out of curiosity, Tatiana presses the "Accept" button.

And here, gentlemen, observe the difference carefully.

Bernard is a man of action. He didn't waste time inviting Tatiana and her daughter to Toronto. Dream conditions: school for her daughter already identified, a spacious apartment, and Bernard even offered on his own initiative to bring Tatiana's mother over.

Do you see the nuance? Bernard didn't wait for Tatiana to ask. He anticipated. He understood what truly mattered to this woman.

The Real Impossible Choice: Security or Romance?

I won't lie to you. Tatiana wasn't madly in love with Bernard at first sight. Paul was closer to her age, more "compatible" on paper according to Western criteria.

But here's what many men don't understand:

A serious Ukrainian woman is not looking for a one-night stand. She's not looking for the grand romantic thrill of a Hollywood movie. She's looking for a solid partner. A man who will take care of her and her family. A man who will allow her to build a stable life.

This is exactly what I regularly explain: if you're not serious, please abstain. These women deserve men who understand their priorities.

Paul offered Tatiana the prospect of starting a difficult life again in America, running after a job, fighting to learn the language, juggling between work and her daughter in an unknown country.

Bernard offered her peace. Security. A future for her daughter. And even a place for her mother.

Was the choice really impossible? Not so much, when you think about it.

Epilogue: On an Italian Beach

Tatiana is happy on the beach in Italy. She watches her daughter playing in the waves and her husband sunbathing under a parasol.

She relives in her mind the last five months that flew by at incredible speed. She sees herself again in her wedding dress, alongside this man who could be her father... and yet, she feels a strong attraction to him. This man who put an end to her hell in Ukraine.

She barely remembers Paul. The one who promised her another kind of hell in America, under the guise of Western "normalcy."

Instead, she can now think about herself. Look beautiful. Enjoy life. And most importantly, watch her daughter grow up in safety.

Her mother is arriving next week.

What This Story Teaches You

Gentlemen from America, Canada, the UK, Australia — if you're reading this article, it's because you're interested in Ukrainian or Russian women. That's an excellent decision. But you need to understand some truths:

1. Age difference comes at a price. If you're 55 and targeting a 35-year-old woman, you need to have the means to compensate for that gap. That's reality. I explained it in detail in my LIVE 239.

2. Don't force your future wife to work immediately. She's leaving everything for you. Give her time to adapt. To breathe. To learn the language naturally.

3. Think about her family. In Ukraine, extended family matters enormously. If you can include her mother in your life plan, you score decisive points.

4. Be a man of action. Don't hesitate for months. A serious Ukrainian woman has other suitors. If you're not proactive, a Bernard will get ahead of you.

Tatiana's story is not unique. Every day, we help men and women build lasting unions. Our divorce rate is below 7%, compared to over 50% for typical Western couples.

The difference? We connect people who are looking for marriage and a lifelong union. Not flings without a future.

Questions? Contact me directly: antoine@cqmi.ca

Antoine Monnier
Founder of CQMI Agency