Let me be direct with you, gentlemen. After years of helping French, Belgian, and Canadian men in their search for a Ukrainian or Russian woman, I've noticed a recurring phenomenon that strikes me every time: you are afraid of women. And this fear, believe me, doesn't come from nowhere.
The Uncomfortable Truth
In the West, it's clear that men no longer really know how to approach women. And I'm not just talking about the language barrier or cultural differences with a Slavic woman. No, the problem runs much deeper.
The first thing that jumps out at me when working with our clients is how completely normal men are terrified of the female sex — the one that used to be called the "weaker" sex in another era. I say "normal" because there's also a segment of men who are completely disrespectful towards women, which I regularly discuss in my Sunday Live sessions. We identify and block those types quickly.
But for the majority of our clients? Fear manifests itself insidiously: the inability to clearly state what they want in a relationship, a permanent guilt towards women, a constant feeling of walking on eggshells.
What a Slavic Woman Perceives
For a Ukrainian or Russian woman living in a country where militant feminism hasn't taken root in the same way, this Western male attitude is simply incomprehensible.
She immediately senses that the man is tiptoeing around. She perceives that he's afraid to speak his truth, that he beats around the bush, that he doesn't dare express his desires and expectations. And in this situation, any Russian or Ukrainian woman assumes the worst: "This man has psychological problems."
It's hard to hear, I know. But it's reality.
An Example That Happens Every Week
This week, in our personalized search package at €750, two different French clients asked me exactly the same question on the same evening. Here's the message from one of them:
"Good evening Antoine, I saw Oksana's invitation but I fear I don't have strong enough shoulders for a relationship with a beautiful woman like Oksana! I know Antoine that you see what I mean. However, I wouldn't want to appear arrogant, I would even like to thank Oksana for her invitation and she does me a great honor by noticing my profile. Do you have a suggestion?"
When my wife Boryslava receives this type of question, she simply doesn't understand. In her Ukrainian culture, a man goes for it. He never thinks in such a convoluted way. So she responds with a smile:
"Marc shouldn't worry, they don't even know each other yet! In this situation, there's nothing to explain and no 'correct answer' to formulate. He just needs to click the 'Decline meeting' button if he's not interested. At the initial stage, both men and women typically communicate with several candidates at once, and that's completely normal. Oksana sent invitations to several men and has already started chatting with another one."
Do you see the difference in mentality? For Boryslava, it's childishly simple. For our Western clients, it's a real emotional puzzle.
Where Does This Fear Come From?
Fear is everywhere in the modern Western man's mind:
He's afraid of losing money. He's afraid of choosing a woman "too beautiful for him." He's afraid of displeasing her. He's afraid of saying what he really thinks. He's afraid of being judged. He's afraid of being rejected.
This escalation of fear is the result of decades of guilt-tripping. In the West, men have been hammered with the message that they're potentially dangerous, that their desires are suspicious, that their masculinity is toxic. Western women can hurt you badly — divorce, child custody, professional reputation — and men know it. I developed this topic in my article on shared custody and its consequences.
So the Western man has learned to make himself small. To apologize for existing. To ask permission before having an opinion.
The Solution: Observe Slavic Couples
My advice? Take example from Russian and Ukrainian men.
Watch Russian or Ukrainian films. Observe the behaviors of men and women. Study the relationship between a Russian man and his wife. Who does what? Who says what? What do they do together?
You'll quickly become envious of this complicity, this man-woman bond that seems unbreakable. In Ukraine and Russia, neither men nor women are afraid of each other. They have well-defined, complementary roles, and they embrace them with pride.
The Slavic man doesn't apologize for being a man. He doesn't ask permission to find a woman beautiful. He doesn't feel guilty for having desires. And guess what? Slavic women love that.
Become Aware of Your Conditioning
The first step is realizing that your sense of guilt towards women isn't natural. It's the result of decades of social conditioning. It's not you who has a problem — it's the software that's been installed in your head that's defective.
Become aware of the importance of your masculine role in society and in a relationship. A Ukrainian or Russian woman isn't looking for a man who apologizes for existing. She's looking for a partner who owns his place, who knows what he wants, who can protect and reassure her.
And be warned: these women aren't looking for a one-night stand. They're looking for marriage, a lifelong union, a serious man to start a family with. If you're not ready for that commitment, look elsewhere.
Take Action
So gentlemen, if you see a woman's profile that appeals to you on our site, please, stop being afraid.
Take responsibility. Tell this woman you want to talk to her, that you're interested. Take the initiative. Have a masculine, confident, direct attitude.
And the Slavic woman will repay you a hundredfold. Because that's exactly what she's waiting for: a man who knows what he wants and isn't afraid to say it.
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Questions? Feel free to contact me directly: antoine@cqmi.ca
Antoine Monnier
Founder of CQMI Agency